Adult Children

Just wanted to put a reminder out there about what it is to be me, and what I am dealing with each and every day. I am recovering but I have many years ahead of me before I reach my goal.



Adult Children of alcoholics or other users:

...guess at what normal is
....have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.
...judge themselves without mercy.
...have difficulty having fun.
...take themselves very seriously.
...have difficulty with intimate relationships. (Many children who experience early life in a home with at least one alcoholic report having difficulty forming intimate relationships. Because of trust issues and a lack of self-esteem, it is difficult for them to allow someone to get close enough to have a trusting, close relationship.)...overreact to changes over which they have no control.
...constantly seek approval and affirmation.
...feel that they are different from other people.
...are either super responsible or super irresponsible.
...are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved.

 

Empathy is an ability with many different definitions.
They cover a broad spectrum, ranging from caring for other people and having a desire to help them, to experiencing emotions that match another person's emotions, to knowing what the other person is thinking or feeling, to blurring the line between self and other. Empathic concern is the feeling of compassion or concern for another, the wish to see them better off or happier

Care Takers

Because of their heightened sense of responsibility, most children of alcoholics believe it is their "role in life" to take care of everyone else.

They tend to be attracted to people they can rescue and take care of.
You will often find them working in the "helping professions."