So I was debating on whether to write this entry or not.
Figured I was gonna do it, cause I owe it to myself to be real.
I might come off as harsh, but you know what.. If I do, it's probably cause you found the shoe fits and you don't wanna wear it. Sorry, not sorry.
I am completely over time consuming, energy stealing "friends", who seam to have gotten it in their head, that they have some kind of right to know what is going on in my life.
My health, my well being.. my life in general.
And when I stand up for my self and ask them to back off, tries to give me this huge guilt trip about how I only care about ME and how my life if all about ME and how I'M feeling.
Well, first off.. I share my life more than most people.
I keep my real friends updated on how I'm doing and what i need from them in order to stay strong.
And by my "real friends" I mean the people who actively wants to see me face to face, hang out with me and do whatever. Not facebook friends who have nothing better to do than to sit behind a computer screen and creep on social media, pretending to give a shit.
Second of all, I do care about ME, do to my health issues at the moment, it's kind of a given to care about and for myself in order to not get any sicker.
And third of all.. My life if about ME!? I am truly sorry, not for playing the main character in my own life, but for the fact that you apparently don't play lead in yours.
I have many supporting acts in my life, people i genuinely care about, keep myself updated with, and people i support. Those are the same people who also put time and effort in to me and my life.
I do not "owe" my time to anyone other than those people.
And no matter what you may believe, I decide who these people are. Not anyone else.
I am also not the kind of person who needs daily contact with my friends. It can overwhelm me.
I don't need to talk to every single one of my friends every day. That don't mean I care any less, it just means I value my alone time and also respect the fact that they also have lives and other things to care about.
I am a no bullshit kind of person. I will give my FULL heart and faith in to someone, believe in them 100%, trust them with every fiber of my being.. But cross me ones and trust is gone.
I will still care about you, but my devotion and loyalty to you is gone.
You can no longer expect me to check in with you and put my time and effort in to a friendship YOU threw away. So to get pissed at me for putting my time and loyalty elsewhere... is not my problem.
Are we clear?
Good.
stat
Tuesday, January 19, 2016
Monday, November 16, 2015
Han den där
Nu har jag haft ångest i 48timmar!
Det är som att falla, snabbt utan något slut.
Jag orkar inte hur mycket som helst.
Jag älskar med hela själen, alla mina fantastiska vänner ni som känt mig genom mina lägsta stunder, Stöttat mig.. Och funnits där vid min sida på mina högsta toppar.
Jag älskar er.
Och sen han den där som får mitt hjärta att slå lite snabbare, lite hårdare.
Han som jag mer eller mindre alltid kommer vänta på..
Jag vet inte om du vet att du är du.. Men du är som de första värmande solstrålarna mot ansiktet på våren.. Jag söker mig till dig som om det inte fanns någon annan i hela världen.. Jag andas dig.
Jag är stark. Starkare än dem flesta.
Jag har gått igenom mycket. Ångest har aldrig varit något som fäller mig, men jag har heller aldrig fått vila från den... Jag behöver vila. Jag gör faktiskt det.
Jag behöver en axel att luta mig mot. En lugn stabil människa som kan ta tyglarna ett tag, och bara låta mig.. finnas. Jag behöver en kram.. såååå mycket.
Åååh... jag orkar inte.. Jag vill bara älska och bli älskad.
Det är som att falla, snabbt utan något slut.
Jag orkar inte hur mycket som helst.
Jag älskar med hela själen, alla mina fantastiska vänner ni som känt mig genom mina lägsta stunder, Stöttat mig.. Och funnits där vid min sida på mina högsta toppar.
Jag älskar er.
Och sen han den där som får mitt hjärta att slå lite snabbare, lite hårdare.
Han som jag mer eller mindre alltid kommer vänta på..
Jag vet inte om du vet att du är du.. Men du är som de första värmande solstrålarna mot ansiktet på våren.. Jag söker mig till dig som om det inte fanns någon annan i hela världen.. Jag andas dig.
Jag är stark. Starkare än dem flesta.
Jag har gått igenom mycket. Ångest har aldrig varit något som fäller mig, men jag har heller aldrig fått vila från den... Jag behöver vila. Jag gör faktiskt det.
Jag behöver en axel att luta mig mot. En lugn stabil människa som kan ta tyglarna ett tag, och bara låta mig.. finnas. Jag behöver en kram.. såååå mycket.
Åååh... jag orkar inte.. Jag vill bara älska och bli älskad.
Thursday, November 12, 2015
Bla bla bla..
Saker förändras snabbt.
Senast jag uppdaterade nämnde jag att jag numera jobbar på Bilia Personbilar.
Well.. Jag slutade på Bilia i Fredags förra veckan.
Mitt vikariat är slut så nu är det iväg mot nya äventyr.
Jag jobbar för Manpower och jag har FULL tillit till min konsultchef att hon hittar ett nytt jobb som passar mig.
Har legat på soffan en hel vecka nu med ryggskott.
DET GÖR SÅ GALET ONT!!
Kan garantera att detta är ett resultat av det faktum att jag jobbat konstant sen början av 2013.
Ingen semester no nothing.
Mina axlar och rygg är helt körda.
Så hoppas inte att min kära konsultchef är allt för snabb med att hitta ett nytt jobb.
Behöver verkligen den här vilan.
Har verkligen inget att tillägga just nu...
Until next time,,
Senast jag uppdaterade nämnde jag att jag numera jobbar på Bilia Personbilar.
Well.. Jag slutade på Bilia i Fredags förra veckan.
Mitt vikariat är slut så nu är det iväg mot nya äventyr.
Jag jobbar för Manpower och jag har FULL tillit till min konsultchef att hon hittar ett nytt jobb som passar mig.
Har legat på soffan en hel vecka nu med ryggskott.
DET GÖR SÅ GALET ONT!!
Kan garantera att detta är ett resultat av det faktum att jag jobbat konstant sen början av 2013.
Ingen semester no nothing.
Mina axlar och rygg är helt körda.
Så hoppas inte att min kära konsultchef är allt för snabb med att hitta ett nytt jobb.
Behöver verkligen den här vilan.
Har verkligen inget att tillägga just nu...
Until next time,,
Monday, November 2, 2015
En sån där dag
Allt jag gått igenom i mitt liv.. och aldrig. Inte en enda gång har jag fått "läka", utan bara ställt mig upp och krigat vidare.
Jag är trött. Och jag märker det kanske allra tydligast när det händer "små saker" som får mig ur balans.
Då kommer tårarna och jag blir jätte ledsen.
Jag känner så idag, att jag skulle behöva släppa ur alla känslor. Bli arg!
Arg på dem som gjort mig illa, och jag har tagit det pga att jag är rädd att förlora dessa personer. Jag har svalt det. Låtsas som inget, eller rent ut av bett om ursäkt för något som jag absolut inte ska ta ansvar för.
Just för att relationen till dessa människor har varit viktigare för mig än att få ha rätt i ett "gräl".
Men Nej.. Jag är trött på att ta på mig saker jag inte ska ta på mig.
Le, fast jag kanske helst av allt vill gråta och skrika.
Hur mycket mer ska jag orka utan att gå sönder?
Jag skulle behöva sjukskriva mig för att få hämta andan lite, det som de flesta människor skulle kalla "semester". En sådan har jag inte haft sen 2012.
Jag känner att kroppen tagit stryk. Men jag är lojal. Jag vill hjälpa till, jobba och göra min chef nöjd.
- Ja men på vilken bekostnad, Lindah?
Skit samma.. Det får vara såhär nu. Jag får bita ihop tills tillfälle ges och jag kan vila lite.
- Jag skulle behöva en kram..
Inte en sån "Hej kul att se dig-kram", utan en sån lång "Jag finns här och det är okej att falla-kram".
Och kärlek.. Vad är det? Jag minns knappt hur det känns att släppa någon nära hjärtat.
Senast jag släppte in någon och vågade chansa så blev jag så galet jävla bränd, så nu när jag försöker så känns det avdomnat på nå vis. Jag vill ha fjärilar, jag vill känna och jag vill bli älskad.
Kanske om jag fick känna mig älskad, så skulle jag orkar lite mera.. Men nu känns det JÄVLIGT tungt.
Och till alla fina kompisar som tänker "Men jag älskar ju dig".. ja.. och det är så underbart av er... men jag vill som alla andra hitta kärleken, hos en pojke (i mitt fall).
Jag är alltid singeln i gänget. Äldst utan barn. Tredje hjulet.. Ni vet själva..
- Men Lindah så får du inte känna!
Jo, det får jag. För let's keep it real här... Det är så det är.
Det är tröttsamt att höra "När ska du träffa någon då".
Ja inte fan vet jag..? När du slutar tjata kanske.
Jag älskar tanken på att ha någon att skynda sig hem från jobbet till.
Någon som väntar där hemma. Någon att krypa upp i soffan med och som pussar mig i pannan och frågar hur dagen varit. Jag vill.. Mer än något annat.
Nu ska jag kolla på vänner och glömma verkligheten lite.
Sunday, November 1, 2015
Blogga på svenska?
Konstigt detta känns.. Att blogga på svenska!
Jag har dividerat många gånger om hur vida jag ska blogga på svenska eller engelska.
"Vi är i Sverige nu Lindah, här pratar vi svenska."
Well.. Jag pratar MYCKET engelska. Varje dag. Alltid gjort, kommer alltid att göra.
Jag säger det jag vill säga, och vilket språk det kommer ut i, det spelar mig mindre roll så länge jag gör mig förstådd.
Det är inte så att jag tänker ut i förväg innan orden kommer ut, om jag ska säga dem på svenska eller engelska. För mig har det blivit nästan som ett och samma språk.
Förstår inte varför det ska störa vissa.
Nå väl..
Jag har inte uppdaterad bloggen sen 1923, eller om det var året innan.. Minns inte.
Jag startade till och med en annan blogg, annan portal och annat namn.. Och jag kommer nog uppdatera den lite till och från, Beroende på vad jag har på hjärtat.
Just denna uppdatering kommer nog vara i stora drag generella uppdateringar på vad som hänt de senaste månaderna.
So.. Jag är fortfarande kvar på Bilia Personbilar. För jag har väl skrivit att jag bytt jobb?
GANSKA säker på att jag nämnt det.
Jag trivs bra på Bilia. Jag är fortfarande inhyrd från Manpower där jag absolut planerar att bli kvar.
Jag har väääärldens bästa konsult chef som alltid stöttar och ställer upp, och jag vore RIKTIGT korkad om jag släppte det för något annat.
Just nu har jag varit sjukskriven en vecka. Haft feber och ont i halsen.
Sjukt otajmat då jag precis varit hemma två dagar pga inflammation på synnerven.
Men nu ska jag förhoppningsvis kunna få vara frisk ett tag.
En annan grej som hänt är att jag fick frågan från Örebro Black Knights (Pontus lag), om jag ville ta på mig rollen som Ordförande för deras supporterklubb.
Det har legat lite löst drivande just nu pga min hälsa mm, men så snart jag är på banan igen så ska jag kicka igång detta.
När jag fick förfrågan från klubben så tackade jag ja direkt. Sekunden efteråt så spinner ju mitt huvud iväg, som det alltid gör... "Oj! Hoppas inte jag kliver Pontus på tårna!" "Kommer han bli sur?" "Hur ställer sig han till detta".. Ångest ångest ångest!
Borde dock ha vetat bättre då han bara var stöttande och tyckte absolut att jag skulle ta chansen.
Phew.. Hade nog backat annars. Den där Pontus är jag rädd om.. :)
Imorgon ska jag sätta igång med motion och bättre matvanor igen.
Har verkligen inte mått bra det senaste året pga hjärtesorg, hälsa och andra saker som tyngt ner mig..
Men jag måste försöka skaka ur den ryggsäcken nu och fylla den med saker som gynnar mig NU.
Lite Lindah tid är way over do.
Ska försöka hitta någon bra film att somna till nu.
Hoppas alla mår bra.
P.S
Hoppas du är nöjd nu Anna :)
Lovar att det ska bli oftare!
Kärlek!
Jag har dividerat många gånger om hur vida jag ska blogga på svenska eller engelska.
"Vi är i Sverige nu Lindah, här pratar vi svenska."
Well.. Jag pratar MYCKET engelska. Varje dag. Alltid gjort, kommer alltid att göra.
Jag säger det jag vill säga, och vilket språk det kommer ut i, det spelar mig mindre roll så länge jag gör mig förstådd.
Det är inte så att jag tänker ut i förväg innan orden kommer ut, om jag ska säga dem på svenska eller engelska. För mig har det blivit nästan som ett och samma språk.
Förstår inte varför det ska störa vissa.
Nå väl..
Jag har inte uppdaterad bloggen sen 1923, eller om det var året innan.. Minns inte.
Jag startade till och med en annan blogg, annan portal och annat namn.. Och jag kommer nog uppdatera den lite till och från, Beroende på vad jag har på hjärtat.
Just denna uppdatering kommer nog vara i stora drag generella uppdateringar på vad som hänt de senaste månaderna.
So.. Jag är fortfarande kvar på Bilia Personbilar. För jag har väl skrivit att jag bytt jobb?
GANSKA säker på att jag nämnt det.
Jag trivs bra på Bilia. Jag är fortfarande inhyrd från Manpower där jag absolut planerar att bli kvar.
Jag har väääärldens bästa konsult chef som alltid stöttar och ställer upp, och jag vore RIKTIGT korkad om jag släppte det för något annat.
Just nu har jag varit sjukskriven en vecka. Haft feber och ont i halsen.
Sjukt otajmat då jag precis varit hemma två dagar pga inflammation på synnerven.
Men nu ska jag förhoppningsvis kunna få vara frisk ett tag.
En annan grej som hänt är att jag fick frågan från Örebro Black Knights (Pontus lag), om jag ville ta på mig rollen som Ordförande för deras supporterklubb.
Det har legat lite löst drivande just nu pga min hälsa mm, men så snart jag är på banan igen så ska jag kicka igång detta.
När jag fick förfrågan från klubben så tackade jag ja direkt. Sekunden efteråt så spinner ju mitt huvud iväg, som det alltid gör... "Oj! Hoppas inte jag kliver Pontus på tårna!" "Kommer han bli sur?" "Hur ställer sig han till detta".. Ångest ångest ångest!
Borde dock ha vetat bättre då han bara var stöttande och tyckte absolut att jag skulle ta chansen.
Phew.. Hade nog backat annars. Den där Pontus är jag rädd om.. :)
Imorgon ska jag sätta igång med motion och bättre matvanor igen.
Har verkligen inte mått bra det senaste året pga hjärtesorg, hälsa och andra saker som tyngt ner mig..
Men jag måste försöka skaka ur den ryggsäcken nu och fylla den med saker som gynnar mig NU.
Lite Lindah tid är way over do.
Ska försöka hitta någon bra film att somna till nu.
Hoppas alla mår bra.
P.S
Hoppas du är nöjd nu Anna :)
Lovar att det ska bli oftare!
Kärlek!
Monday, April 6, 2015
Get it done!
Monday!
Just took a two hr walk back and forth to town.
It's a beautiful spring day out.
Tomorrow it's back to work again. Can't say I'm too exciter about it.
We have a Sales education in the AM and after that, we have finals.
I'm a little anxious about the final exam. I've never been a school kind of girl.
I don't learn by sitting down and listening. I learn by watching, then mimicking,
Hopefully I'll do OK.
.
Just took a two hr walk back and forth to town.
It's a beautiful spring day out.
Tomorrow it's back to work again. Can't say I'm too exciter about it.
We have a Sales education in the AM and after that, we have finals.
I'm a little anxious about the final exam. I've never been a school kind of girl.
I don't learn by sitting down and listening. I learn by watching, then mimicking,
Hopefully I'll do OK.
.
Friday, April 3, 2015
Open wounds
There's a lot on my mind tonight,
I was cleaning my apartment and well.. found a bunch of old notes, pictures and things that relate back to when me and Johan used to me really close.
It's so weird to think about it really.. Just a few months ago, it was him and I against the world.
He was my person.. my BFF and more!
He kept me safe and had me smiling when all I wanted to do was cry.
There was not a second he didn't make sure I was ok.
If we didn't work the same shift one day, he would sit with me for a while, make sure I was ok, then he'd leave, but every so often, I'd check my phone after he had left, and there would be a sweet encouraging message from him.
- "No matter what day it is, No matter how you're feeling, No matter how I'm feeling, You will always have my support."
That was just a few months ago. Now.. We're like strangers.
There's nothing there anymore, and it makes me sad.
I don't think about it anymore on a daily basis.. But when I find things, notes, letter from him or pictures of us two together.. My mind can't help but to remember.
People still ask me about him, and how our relationship is nowadays.
And I hate answering that question, cause I know that after I tell people we don't really talk anymore.. There's always the follow-up-questions..
And I honestly don't know how to answer them, cause I have no idea what went wrong..
No matter the situation tho.. This guy will ALWAYS have my support, loyalty and love, cause I will always be grateful to him for being there for me.
I was cleaning my apartment and well.. found a bunch of old notes, pictures and things that relate back to when me and Johan used to me really close.
It's so weird to think about it really.. Just a few months ago, it was him and I against the world.
He was my person.. my BFF and more!
He kept me safe and had me smiling when all I wanted to do was cry.
There was not a second he didn't make sure I was ok.
If we didn't work the same shift one day, he would sit with me for a while, make sure I was ok, then he'd leave, but every so often, I'd check my phone after he had left, and there would be a sweet encouraging message from him.
- "No matter what day it is, No matter how you're feeling, No matter how I'm feeling, You will always have my support."
That was just a few months ago. Now.. We're like strangers.
There's nothing there anymore, and it makes me sad.
I don't think about it anymore on a daily basis.. But when I find things, notes, letter from him or pictures of us two together.. My mind can't help but to remember.
People still ask me about him, and how our relationship is nowadays.
And I hate answering that question, cause I know that after I tell people we don't really talk anymore.. There's always the follow-up-questions..
And I honestly don't know how to answer them, cause I have no idea what went wrong..
No matter the situation tho.. This guy will ALWAYS have my support, loyalty and love, cause I will always be grateful to him for being there for me.
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
Friendship
It's been a week.
Things have been a little bit of a roller coaster. Not that that's unusual, but still.
I'm doing ok with the medical things at the moment. Well.. "ok".. I can't feel my left leg, waist down there's no sense in it which is pretty uncomfortable. But no PAIN right now.
I've had a good day at work today. I'm major crushing on all my co workers, as friends of course.. But it's that butterfly feeling in my tummy when I'm around them.
I truly do love these crazy people, they make me laugh hysterically ever day.
I'm enjoying laughing and being on speaking terms with Johan again.
He's been good with me these past two weeks and it's making me remember the good times we've had.
I adore that guy no matter what our situation and relationship is.
He kept me safe and smiling through one of the hardest times in my life, and I will ALWAYS remember that. Just.. Those warm, kind brown eyes get's me every time.. They make me feel SO comfortable and I forget that any day, at any time.. he can stop talking to me again.
And even tho I KNOW this.. It still hurts every time.
People may not get us, hell, I don't get us half the time either.. But.. Maybe I just have to accept that this, is us now, and I'm just gonna have to take the bad with the good.
No matter what.. He's my friend and I love him.
Me and a few friends are planing a trip beginning of June.
I can't say much about it yet cause kind of want it to be a surprise.
But it is within Sweden and it's gonna be EPIC!
For now, stay good!
Things have been a little bit of a roller coaster. Not that that's unusual, but still.
I'm doing ok with the medical things at the moment. Well.. "ok".. I can't feel my left leg, waist down there's no sense in it which is pretty uncomfortable. But no PAIN right now.
I've had a good day at work today. I'm major crushing on all my co workers, as friends of course.. But it's that butterfly feeling in my tummy when I'm around them.
I truly do love these crazy people, they make me laugh hysterically ever day.
I'm enjoying laughing and being on speaking terms with Johan again.
He's been good with me these past two weeks and it's making me remember the good times we've had.
I adore that guy no matter what our situation and relationship is.
He kept me safe and smiling through one of the hardest times in my life, and I will ALWAYS remember that. Just.. Those warm, kind brown eyes get's me every time.. They make me feel SO comfortable and I forget that any day, at any time.. he can stop talking to me again.
And even tho I KNOW this.. It still hurts every time.
People may not get us, hell, I don't get us half the time either.. But.. Maybe I just have to accept that this, is us now, and I'm just gonna have to take the bad with the good.
No matter what.. He's my friend and I love him.
Me and a few friends are planing a trip beginning of June.
I can't say much about it yet cause kind of want it to be a surprise.
But it is within Sweden and it's gonna be EPIC!
For now, stay good!
Wednesday, March 4, 2015
Validation
Just got off the phone with my good friend Anna.
She called just to catch up and the regular girl talk.
While I was in Örebro this weekend we met up for a quick hello, as she also was in town visiting from Stockholm.
She brought up meeting up with me while I was with Jasmi and the magic boy.
She then says out of nowhere.. "I don't know what it was with that guy.. But just being around him, made me calm." I grasped for air as I said responded with a: "YES!!!"
That is EXACTLY the effect he has on me.. I just feel.. safe and relaxed around him.
She continues to say; "You're usually not that chill and I noticed that right away that you seamed so, calm."
And I was.. I don't think I've ever been so relaxed around a boy.
There's just.. something about this one, and the fact that she also felt it.. just validates my feeling even more.
Anna has also been around me and little Johan while him and I hung out, we don't any more, but there was a time when we were really close. She said, "Sure, you and J had chemistry and you had fun together, but this was different."
And it's true.. I had fun with J, but.. That's not what I need.
I need safe. Secure and someone who can keep me calm. Without even really trying.
I'm not saying that it has to be THIS guy, I'm just saying.. I know now what I want and need.
And it's not a little boy. It's a MAN. It's someone who knows who they are, where they're going and what the want out of life.
But like I said in a previous entry, THIS guy.. and no, no names mentioned.. THIS guy.. I hope I get to keep in my life, no matter what the situation.
- He's THAT good.
xoxo
She called just to catch up and the regular girl talk.
While I was in Örebro this weekend we met up for a quick hello, as she also was in town visiting from Stockholm.
She brought up meeting up with me while I was with Jasmi and the magic boy.
She then says out of nowhere.. "I don't know what it was with that guy.. But just being around him, made me calm." I grasped for air as I said responded with a: "YES!!!"
That is EXACTLY the effect he has on me.. I just feel.. safe and relaxed around him.
She continues to say; "You're usually not that chill and I noticed that right away that you seamed so, calm."
And I was.. I don't think I've ever been so relaxed around a boy.
There's just.. something about this one, and the fact that she also felt it.. just validates my feeling even more.
Anna has also been around me and little Johan while him and I hung out, we don't any more, but there was a time when we were really close. She said, "Sure, you and J had chemistry and you had fun together, but this was different."
And it's true.. I had fun with J, but.. That's not what I need.
I need safe. Secure and someone who can keep me calm. Without even really trying.
I'm not saying that it has to be THIS guy, I'm just saying.. I know now what I want and need.
And it's not a little boy. It's a MAN. It's someone who knows who they are, where they're going and what the want out of life.
But like I said in a previous entry, THIS guy.. and no, no names mentioned.. THIS guy.. I hope I get to keep in my life, no matter what the situation.
- He's THAT good.
xoxo
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
I am capable.
Yesterday was rough.
It doesn't matter how well I know that my anxiety is temporary, that "tomorrow is a new day".
When I'm all up in it, It's too dark to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
This isn't something new to me.. I've been dealing with this for years.
The crappy part about it is that it doesn't ever get any easier.
You just gotta roll with it, take it all in to make it end quicker.
It truly sucks when I start letting my guard down for someone, and I end up disappointed.. I get bitter.
And bitter, is not a good look on anyone. And I HATE bitter.. I'm not a bitter person so when I get like this.. I don't know myself and that causes even more anxiety.
And that.. Is what you call an endless circle.
Regardless of this.. I am grateful. Grateful to have had someone show me that I am in fact capable of letting someone in. Capable of trusting someone again.
Don't ever let anyone who makes you happy, walk out of your life.
xo
It doesn't matter how well I know that my anxiety is temporary, that "tomorrow is a new day".
When I'm all up in it, It's too dark to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
This isn't something new to me.. I've been dealing with this for years.
The crappy part about it is that it doesn't ever get any easier.
You just gotta roll with it, take it all in to make it end quicker.
It truly sucks when I start letting my guard down for someone, and I end up disappointed.. I get bitter.
And bitter, is not a good look on anyone. And I HATE bitter.. I'm not a bitter person so when I get like this.. I don't know myself and that causes even more anxiety.
And that.. Is what you call an endless circle.
Regardless of this.. I am grateful. Grateful to have had someone show me that I am in fact capable of letting someone in. Capable of trusting someone again.
Don't ever let anyone who makes you happy, walk out of your life.
xo
Monday, March 2, 2015
You are not alone
For anyone with a broken childhood struggling thinking that you're alone.
You are not.
I hate it
I hate it that I'm broken.
I hate it that I have all these issues caused by my childhood.
I hate it that every time I feel even a little relaxed with a situation, I end up disappointed.
I hate it that I'm so complicated that no one ever sticks around.
I hate it that I just.. Never can catch a break.
I hate the fact that there are books written about me, about people like me.
I hate it that I get way to attached to people that show me kindness.
I hate it when people say they understand. You DON'T understand unless you've been through it.
I hate it that I feel SO alone in all this. I am strong.. But sometimes even I fall apart.
I hate hating things...
The most beautiful thing.
It's been a hectic couple of weeks.
Trying to balance work, myself as well as my friends well being.
As always I put my own health aside to be there for everyone I hold dear.
If they, my friends are not doing well, it won't matter how I'm doing, cause I won't be happy.
I'm not happy at work either, it feels like I'm just.. stuck. Like almost in a hamster wheel.
I'm more than ready to move on. I love working, I'm a workaholic but I also wanna feel like what I'm doing is appreciated and that It's meaningful. But I don't.. So I gotta stay true to myself and more on.
To narrow this entry down a little, I'll focus on this weekend.
It's been rather hectic.
Friday the annual After Work with the coworkers. It always gets a lil crazy but always so much fun.
Little Adrian has a boob crush on me... apparently. Cause he can't stop looking at them. "Can I touch them".... NO! You may not. Babe, you need a girlfriend. lol
I was home way before midnight, which was needed as I had to get up at 6am the next morning to attend my little sisters wedding back in Västerås.
I was one of her 3 bridesmaids so needed to not look like.. "The day after". Which I didn't, thankfully.
I was really anxious and nervous about this wedding as I knew my brother, with whom I don't really have a relationship with at the moment, was gonna be there along with his girlfriend and their newborn baby, I have waited, wondered and worried about if I was ever gonna get to meet this little baby. Not being on good terms with my brother is painful, as he, no matter what will always be one of the most important people in my life, that will never change.. so to not have gotten to meet his little boy.. have been hard. But I FINALLY got to meet him and hold him.
I can with a straight face say that it was pure bliss.. The second he was placed in my arms, I just broke.. Couldn't stop crying. Happy tears of course. But oh my goodness.. That baby is the most beautiful little boy I've ever seen.. Ever. I'm SO grateful to have met him and I REALLY hope it wasn't the last time.
After the wedding I was off to Örebro to hang out with Jasmi, but to also meet up with this wonderful boy I've been talking to.
Sometimes I surprise myself, or.. rather.. people surprise me.
I have a HARD time trusting people, letting people in and feeling that sense of.. security.
For someone to get me to that point where I feel, calm and relaxed around a boy. It just.. doesn't happen.
But honestly... This one.. There's just something different..
He's just genuine and good hearted. I'm not used to that.
And I think it's only really happened ones before, and that took over a year.
Also, it really doesn't hurt the fact that he's Oh-So-Dreamy.. Perfection if you will.
No matter what happens, I really hope I get to keep this one in my life.
I do need people like him in my around me, cause he strengthens me.
I'm grateful no matter what.
Right now I'm at home sick, but hoping to be back in action soon.
How are all of you doing?
Did y'all have a good weekend?
xoxo
Trying to balance work, myself as well as my friends well being.
As always I put my own health aside to be there for everyone I hold dear.
If they, my friends are not doing well, it won't matter how I'm doing, cause I won't be happy.
I'm not happy at work either, it feels like I'm just.. stuck. Like almost in a hamster wheel.
I'm more than ready to move on. I love working, I'm a workaholic but I also wanna feel like what I'm doing is appreciated and that It's meaningful. But I don't.. So I gotta stay true to myself and more on.
To narrow this entry down a little, I'll focus on this weekend.
It's been rather hectic.
Friday the annual After Work with the coworkers. It always gets a lil crazy but always so much fun.
Little Adrian has a boob crush on me... apparently. Cause he can't stop looking at them. "Can I touch them".... NO! You may not. Babe, you need a girlfriend. lol
I was home way before midnight, which was needed as I had to get up at 6am the next morning to attend my little sisters wedding back in Västerås.
I was one of her 3 bridesmaids so needed to not look like.. "The day after". Which I didn't, thankfully.
I was really anxious and nervous about this wedding as I knew my brother, with whom I don't really have a relationship with at the moment, was gonna be there along with his girlfriend and their newborn baby, I have waited, wondered and worried about if I was ever gonna get to meet this little baby. Not being on good terms with my brother is painful, as he, no matter what will always be one of the most important people in my life, that will never change.. so to not have gotten to meet his little boy.. have been hard. But I FINALLY got to meet him and hold him.
I can with a straight face say that it was pure bliss.. The second he was placed in my arms, I just broke.. Couldn't stop crying. Happy tears of course. But oh my goodness.. That baby is the most beautiful little boy I've ever seen.. Ever. I'm SO grateful to have met him and I REALLY hope it wasn't the last time.
After the wedding I was off to Örebro to hang out with Jasmi, but to also meet up with this wonderful boy I've been talking to.
Sometimes I surprise myself, or.. rather.. people surprise me.
I have a HARD time trusting people, letting people in and feeling that sense of.. security.
For someone to get me to that point where I feel, calm and relaxed around a boy. It just.. doesn't happen.
But honestly... This one.. There's just something different..
He's just genuine and good hearted. I'm not used to that.
And I think it's only really happened ones before, and that took over a year.
Also, it really doesn't hurt the fact that he's Oh-So-Dreamy.. Perfection if you will.
No matter what happens, I really hope I get to keep this one in my life.
I do need people like him in my around me, cause he strengthens me.
I'm grateful no matter what.
Right now I'm at home sick, but hoping to be back in action soon.
How are all of you doing?
Did y'all have a good weekend?
xoxo
Tuesday, February 17, 2015
It's a good thing!
Things are good. Really good.
I can FINALLY see a light at the end of this long dark tunnel and I'm slowly but surely starting to relax. I know that usually is a BAD idea, but honestly, if I don't get to rest now.. I'm done.
It's been a LONG and steep uphill battle and I honestly just need a break.
People at work even noticed my happy state of mind.
I've been smiley and giddy all day.
It also brings me happiness to see that things are looking up for my friends.
My beautiful friend Hannah who today found out she got her dream job.
She's SO deserving of this.
She has had to put up with WAY more shit that she deserves at this place.
So she'll be working her last day at Transcom this Saturday, I'll miss her terribly but soon I'll be ending my time at Transcom to.
It's been a good run, but things have changed so drastically between me and my favorite person on this planet, so instead of giving me strength, it's breaking me down.
And I don¨t wanna stay at a place like that.
Hope you all are good!
I can FINALLY see a light at the end of this long dark tunnel and I'm slowly but surely starting to relax. I know that usually is a BAD idea, but honestly, if I don't get to rest now.. I'm done.
It's been a LONG and steep uphill battle and I honestly just need a break.
People at work even noticed my happy state of mind.
I've been smiley and giddy all day.
It also brings me happiness to see that things are looking up for my friends.
My beautiful friend Hannah who today found out she got her dream job.
She's SO deserving of this.
She has had to put up with WAY more shit that she deserves at this place.
So she'll be working her last day at Transcom this Saturday, I'll miss her terribly but soon I'll be ending my time at Transcom to.
It's been a good run, but things have changed so drastically between me and my favorite person on this planet, so instead of giving me strength, it's breaking me down.
And I don¨t wanna stay at a place like that.
Hope you all are good!
Wednesday, February 11, 2015
#ExchangeEURO2015
It's been a good day.
Got to leave work early do to lack of things to do, texted my sister to see if she was up for some company, which she was, so I headed over to her place.
Got to catch up some and hang out a little with my baby niece.
Had dinner with them all before heading home to do some more PR for my guys.
I love doing little things for them, even if they don't ask me I try and take every opportunity presented to try and help my friends. They're SO deserving of every good thing coming their way and I wanna do everything I can to help them get to where they want and need to be.
Am talking a little with one of the big names in music production to see if he has any interest in working with the guys.. Am VERY nervous about that one!
If this one goes well... It will mean big things for The Exchange!
Sooo... Keep your fingers crossed people.
Right now on twitter, the European Exchangers are lovebombing the guys, wishing them good luck on tour and asking them to come back to Europe soon.
I'm sure they will have America falling in love with them in no time.
How could they not. There guys are magic.
They just better not forget about us over here in Europe!
Anyways, It's 8.30 and I have to be up at 4, so time to unwind, watch a movie and get some sleep.
Hope you all are doing well.
And shout out to Angela for her sweet message today on instagram.
It totally made my day!
Got to leave work early do to lack of things to do, texted my sister to see if she was up for some company, which she was, so I headed over to her place.
Got to catch up some and hang out a little with my baby niece.
Had dinner with them all before heading home to do some more PR for my guys.
I love doing little things for them, even if they don't ask me I try and take every opportunity presented to try and help my friends. They're SO deserving of every good thing coming their way and I wanna do everything I can to help them get to where they want and need to be.
Am talking a little with one of the big names in music production to see if he has any interest in working with the guys.. Am VERY nervous about that one!
If this one goes well... It will mean big things for The Exchange!
Sooo... Keep your fingers crossed people.
Right now on twitter, the European Exchangers are lovebombing the guys, wishing them good luck on tour and asking them to come back to Europe soon.
I'm sure they will have America falling in love with them in no time.
How could they not. There guys are magic.
They just better not forget about us over here in Europe!
Anyways, It's 8.30 and I have to be up at 4, so time to unwind, watch a movie and get some sleep.
Hope you all are doing well.
And shout out to Angela for her sweet message today on instagram.
It totally made my day!
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
Toxic
I've changed my facebook, made a completely new one. I've also made a new blog.
That's why I haven't written anything on here for a while.
I'm just fed up and in need of a cleansing. Need to cut all out the drama in my life.
Thing is.. I just NOW realized who and what is causing drama in my life.
It's partly me, of course. How? I'm a very direct person, most Swedes can't deal with that.
If I have a problem with you I will confront you.
I am loud, and I take up space. That is also not acceptable in Swedish culture. It's true, google it.
Google "Law of Jante".
Anyways.. It's also this one person. Straight up toxic. I don't need that kind of poison in my life.
I can't believe I didn't see it earlier, and the fact that I was warned about them.. I kinda have my self to blame.. I just.. Thought more of this person i suppose.
I'm PISSSSSED!!
That's why I haven't written anything on here for a while.
I'm just fed up and in need of a cleansing. Need to cut all out the drama in my life.
Thing is.. I just NOW realized who and what is causing drama in my life.
It's partly me, of course. How? I'm a very direct person, most Swedes can't deal with that.
If I have a problem with you I will confront you.
I am loud, and I take up space. That is also not acceptable in Swedish culture. It's true, google it.
Google "Law of Jante".
Anyways.. It's also this one person. Straight up toxic. I don't need that kind of poison in my life.
I can't believe I didn't see it earlier, and the fact that I was warned about them.. I kinda have my self to blame.. I just.. Thought more of this person i suppose.
I'm PISSSSSED!!
Saturday, February 7, 2015
I am no better than you.
Hey all!
So, I'm gonna use this entry to set some things straight.
As far as The Exchange go, I along with a few little helpers, run the fan group "Exchange Europe".
I am not down to "compete" with any other support group.
I am not doing this for recognition, I am doing this for the boys. So I really don't see the point in why anyone would try and compete with us..? This is not a competition.
The boys loves us all equally.
Also, as far as www.ExchangersUnited.com goes, Tess contacted me and asked me if I wanted to help her with this idea she had, the idea coming to be this website.
How WE divide work, tasks and who does what regarding that site, is OUR business and not for anyone else to be bothered with.
I do not "take credit" for anything that I should not be taking credit for.
So please stop with the accusations, bashing and hate.
I am here for my friends, The Exchange, to help, support and promote them. As a FAN, not as anything "higher" than anyone else. What YOU see me as, I can not help, but as far as anything else goes, I am nothing more than a supporter.
I welcome anyone who wants to help with anything regarding Exchange Europe or whatever other project I may be involved with.
I hope this helps clear things up.
XO
So, I'm gonna use this entry to set some things straight.
As far as The Exchange go, I along with a few little helpers, run the fan group "Exchange Europe".
I am not down to "compete" with any other support group.
I am not doing this for recognition, I am doing this for the boys. So I really don't see the point in why anyone would try and compete with us..? This is not a competition.
The boys loves us all equally.
Also, as far as www.ExchangersUnited.com goes, Tess contacted me and asked me if I wanted to help her with this idea she had, the idea coming to be this website.
How WE divide work, tasks and who does what regarding that site, is OUR business and not for anyone else to be bothered with.
I do not "take credit" for anything that I should not be taking credit for.
So please stop with the accusations, bashing and hate.
I am here for my friends, The Exchange, to help, support and promote them. As a FAN, not as anything "higher" than anyone else. What YOU see me as, I can not help, but as far as anything else goes, I am nothing more than a supporter.
I welcome anyone who wants to help with anything regarding Exchange Europe or whatever other project I may be involved with.
I hope this helps clear things up.
XO
Friday, January 30, 2015
Moomin!
It's been a GOOD week,
a few bumps, but nothing I haven't been able to handle.
I'm major crushing on all my friends right now and I'm just SOOOO thankful that they are MY friends.. mine! How did I get so lucky?
I'm loving little Felicia and the fantastic strong person that she is!
And my friendship with little J is better than it's been in months.
My sister asked me to be her bridesmaid at her wedding next months.
Naturally my answer was, "WHAT THE HELL TOOK YOU SO LONG TO ASK!!!... But Yes!"
I'm just... Thankful!
Tomorrow my moomin is coming to town for a visit!
We try to meet up every few months or so, It's always a laugh when I'm with her and I'm truly happy we've stayed in touch,
Moomin, or.. Jasmi and I were Au Pairs in the US at the same time.
We were 2 out of 6 Swedes who were flew over at the same time.
Anyways, after I meet up with Mooms tomorrow I'm going out with my childhood friend and party pal, Daniela. This girl is HILARIOUS! There's just no one like her. Anywhere.
Well, I gotta get some sleep now. Packed day tomorrow.
xoxo
a few bumps, but nothing I haven't been able to handle.
I'm major crushing on all my friends right now and I'm just SOOOO thankful that they are MY friends.. mine! How did I get so lucky?
I'm loving little Felicia and the fantastic strong person that she is!
And my friendship with little J is better than it's been in months.
My sister asked me to be her bridesmaid at her wedding next months.
Naturally my answer was, "WHAT THE HELL TOOK YOU SO LONG TO ASK!!!... But Yes!"
I'm just... Thankful!
Tomorrow my moomin is coming to town for a visit!
We try to meet up every few months or so, It's always a laugh when I'm with her and I'm truly happy we've stayed in touch,
Moomin, or.. Jasmi and I were Au Pairs in the US at the same time.
We were 2 out of 6 Swedes who were flew over at the same time.
Anyways, after I meet up with Mooms tomorrow I'm going out with my childhood friend and party pal, Daniela. This girl is HILARIOUS! There's just no one like her. Anywhere.
Well, I gotta get some sleep now. Packed day tomorrow.
xoxo
Thursday, January 29, 2015
High school BS
Someone made me question myself today. I don't appreciate that..
Someone made me actually question myself if I'm actually a good person or not.
I AM a good person, I'm human, i make mistakes, sure. But I AM a good person.
I confront people. I don't take shit.
When I hear that someone has said something about me in a negative manner, I ask if and why they did that.
This cause I don't want things to grow and become a huge thing so I'll rather just crush any drama before it becomes, drama.
This, is not ok in Sweden.. You don't confront people here. You just roll over and play dead.
If someone is throwing shit at you, you stay put, smile and ask for more.
I don't roll like that. Never did never will.
So when someone asks me to just.. live with the fact that people talk about me.
- How about no?
I will stand up for myself. I will confront.
If people don't like it, don't talk about me.
And don't, do NOT put words in my mouth. I will stand for everything I say about people, I don't need anyone to talk for me or tell anyone anything that I didn't say.
What is this? High school? COME ON!!
Good night.
Someone made me actually question myself if I'm actually a good person or not.
I AM a good person, I'm human, i make mistakes, sure. But I AM a good person.
I confront people. I don't take shit.
When I hear that someone has said something about me in a negative manner, I ask if and why they did that.
This cause I don't want things to grow and become a huge thing so I'll rather just crush any drama before it becomes, drama.
This, is not ok in Sweden.. You don't confront people here. You just roll over and play dead.
If someone is throwing shit at you, you stay put, smile and ask for more.
I don't roll like that. Never did never will.
So when someone asks me to just.. live with the fact that people talk about me.
- How about no?
I will stand up for myself. I will confront.
If people don't like it, don't talk about me.
And don't, do NOT put words in my mouth. I will stand for everything I say about people, I don't need anyone to talk for me or tell anyone anything that I didn't say.
What is this? High school? COME ON!!
Good night.
Monday, January 26, 2015
Di Caprio
It's not about how many times you fall apart. It's about how many times you put yourself back together again.
I've done it, time and time again. This time tho is some what different from the other times.. I don't know how and why. Maybe it's not for me to understand? I don't know.
Today has been a good day. I'm slowly but surely finding my way back to that sense of security again. He's showing me kindness and compassion and I'm taking it in, All of it.
I don't know what's going through his mind from day to day, but I'm trying to just take one day at a time and see where it takes me. I'm just grateful in the moment to have him there next to me.
Love him to death!
I've been applying for a new job, I'm REALLY wanting to go back to my old company, TeliaSonera.
It's the best employer I've ever had, I applied for two jobs with them today. Keep your fingers crossed! I REALLY want this one!
I'm gonna make an attempt to watch "The Great Gatsby" now, I've tried 2 times earlier but fallen asleep within the first 20 min. I absolutely LOVE everything Leonardo Di Caprio, but I'm embarrassingly tired when I get home from work.
Anyways.. Keep your fingers crossed for me regarding the job, and send me some positive thoughts!
xoxo
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